Hey A**HOLE!

Assh*les: We’ve all got them, but only some of us can be them.

Assh*le — that’s a word you don’t hear people use to describe themselves every day. My mother would cringe hearing me use it, but there’s no substitute. There are just too many assh*les around these days. They may not be proud of it or happy about it, but that’s how it is.

But what does it mean to be an assh*le? What does it mean when you’re the one chasing everyone away? What does it mean when you’re the one destroying every chance at something good?

Maybe I’m just looking for that perfect relationship —my assh*le counterpart, the beads to my anal. Or maybe I just like being alone, maybe I’m an assh*le because it’s easier this way.

After spending a certain amount of time by yourself, it becomes natural to enjoy being alone. Most assh*les are masters of isolation and deep brooding. But let’s not get all dark and emotional here.

To bring it back, let’s just say that in every dating scenario, there’s always one assh*le and one pussy. The assh*le is the one who is ruining the dream and most definitely “less affected” by the whole thing.

They are the ones who may seem aloof or unresponsive. They don’t tell you what you want to hear or do what you want them to do. They are picky and stubborn and usually have no intention of changing for anyone.

Before you start hating us, just know that most assh*les aren’t born assh*les (except a few, and you know who those people are).

A lot of us become assh*les from years of tear (sorry). It only takes a few bad times and at least one broken heart to turn any good person into a huge assh*le.

Yet, for some reason, assh*les attract good people. They attract people who want to clean them and help them. They attract people who see something in them and want to hold on to that as they try and get to know them.

But assh*les are always going to be assh*les and try as you might to change them, they’re just going to sh*t all over you.

I like to be independent and make my own schedule

All assh*les are defined as being selfish, but in reality, they just like to be on their own. They don’t think asking for alone time is wrong. They had a life before you and they will continue to have that life during and after you.

Texting throughout the day isn’t going to make me love you

It’s going to make me hate you, especially when I’m reaching a deadline. There’s no need to always be talking. I’m thinking about other things and your incessant need to chatter makes me kind of think you’re an assh*le.

If you like me too much, I think there’s something wrong with you

It’s the old Groucho Marx saying, “I wouldn’t want to belong to any club that would have me for a member.” Most assh*les know they’re assh*les, so the idea that you would love them just leads them to believe something is wrong with you.

I don’t like to show emotion all the time

I don’t tell my mother I love her every day, so why would I tell you? Just because we’ve been hanging out doesn’t mean there’s a need for me to get affectionate right away.

My affection is hard to attain, so when you have it, it should mean much more.

I’d rather you chase me than me chase you

Maybe I’m entitled, maybe I’m just lazy. Chasing someone is work and I don’t feel like wasting time that could be spent productively on someone who clearly needs attention. If you need this much attention before we date, what are you going to be like once I catch you?

I’m not going to give you everything right off the bat

I worked hard for everything I have so why would I freely give it out? My time, my affection and my money are not something that are ever idly thrown away.

I have my opinions

I’m not going to say I like something just because you want me to. I will tell you what I like and what I don’t like.

That’s how I get through life and people should respect that. If you don’t like my opinions, you don’t have to stay around and listen to them.

Im not an alcoholic, you suck at drinking

The last thing assh*les want to do is listen to what you don’t like about them. They don’t have a problem, you have the problem.

I refuse to be fake

There’s only room for one assh*le in a relationship (Kim and Kanye are the only exception to this), and if we think you’re acting like one, we’re not going to stick around. There’s already too much sh*t between people as it is.

Expectations, The Bane For A Person's Life?

It's quite a while i wrote anything here but since it is a holiday today, i was compelled to write something as I was having a group chat with some of my friends which I believe is many people's problem these days. Yup, i said it, EXPECTATIONS.

Don't get me wrong, expectations is also good in a way because it drives a person to excel or push a person to achieve something in life. But what if it's an overwhelming expectation? It can come from the person himself/herself or it can also come from other people. Majority of the time, it's expectations from other people and people live on other people's expectations. Be it expectations from friends, family members, colleagues, bosses, loved ones and etc. The most fearful one is living an overwhelming expectation from family members and one's self.

Ever heard of expectations from family members such as from your parents that the child must be this and that, must find a same status person to get married and etc. The list goes a long way for this. Most of the time, being raised up by that parent, the child adopts that thinking that their parents is correct. Yes, that's normal as a child will always look up to their parents. Hence, having these kind of expectations really can detriment a person or a child's life. We hear of so many cases of suicides these days because of the pressure coming from parents, the crazily overwhelming expectations from them. I mean, is that worth it? A number of them survive this crazy pressure of expecation, but many fold and turn to suicide or other ways to remove themselves from the pain.

Nowadays, people want the "top of the cream" stuff (deliberate bolding of the word "stuff"). I mean yes, who doesn't. Putting pressure and expectations to themselves can probably boost them to achieve those stuff. It's good to have a little pressure in life so that one can drive themselves to be better. Now, what's bad here is when a person has overwhelming expectations on other people, especially on the people who loves them such as wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend and etc. Worst is when their loved ones are pushed extremely hard with expectations just because that person who expects wants to show off to their circle of friends or even plainly do not have the patience to wait. Just too many of these cases where one side expects too much and the other just can't deliver. Would anyone feel happy? I bet all my chips on this that nobody will be. It's more of "one-way" business if that happens in any relationship or couple (be it married or not).

Personally and i've also seen it with my very own eyes that when an individual or a couple helps each other out and putting down overwhelming expectations, they achieve more than their wildest dreams. This is very simple and very logical. When there is LOW STRESS in couples, doesn't matter from which side, the more collaboration a couple can build. In a couple, it's like a team. It's no longer an individual game. If one side is just only demanding and taking, the other will soon burn out and fall off. I normally call these demanding and only taking people, LEECHES/PARASITES. Hence, when a couple puts down overwhelming expectations on each other, they know that they have each other's back in every aspect be it moral, energy, time and monetary support. It will be like, if one knows that the partner is having trouble in monetary, then the other partner should at least help up abit on doing some payment on other things instead of putting the entire load to the one that has problems monetarily. I have seen that when one does that for their partner, the partner will be very happy and will work even harder to give more to the partner who helped. Hence, they will strive together and achieve more without feeling stressed. Of course, i'm not talking about TOTAL no stress because that's impossible.

I believe people should put down overwhelming expectations on themselves and also on other people to achieve more and be a happier person/couple. Ultimately, our life in this world is not very long. So why live a stressful life and chase "fools gold" and forgo what you have beautifully in front of you? Embracing and be thankful of what you already have now, will definitely have a better outcome than pressuring people with overwhelming expectations. As the saying goes:

Good things come to those who wait,

Better things come to those who don't give up,

The best things come to those who believe.

Happy Holidays. :)

Some habits of highly successful people during weekends.

I’ve read countless articles about what successful people do on their weekends. Do you want to know the secret? It’s the same thing that they do every other day. As Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Here are 12 weekend habits of highly successful people:

Robert Iger: Get up early

This Disney CEO is not the only executive claiming to rise at 4:30 every morning. Successful people do not stay in bed until 2 p.m. on a Sunday. Or even 11 a.m. Research shows that our brains are sharpest two and a half to four hours after waking. Get up early on a weekend and you’ve got a head start on the rest of the world.

Benjamin Franklin: Have a plan

Apparently, this founding father asked himself every morning, “What good shall I do today?” Successful people know the importance of even daily goals — the weekends are no exception. Sure, they can be a time for (planned and purposeful) rejuvenation, but you don’t have to be President to know that general slacking off is not an option.

Timothy Ferris: Don’t multi-task

Multi-tasking is so 2005. It may be tempting to maximize your weekend productivity by running on the treadmill while calling your mother and trolling your newsfeed, but successful people know that this just reduces efficiency and effectiveness. Instead, be present for each single activity. Ferris recommends a maximum of two goals or tasks per day to ensure productivity and accomplishments align.

Anna Wintour: Stay active

Vogue’s editor-in-chief commits to playing tennis for one hour every day. And she’s not the only big-shot making time for exercise. Richard Branson stays active with kite surfing and India’s fourth-richest billionaire is a serial marathon runner. Successful people know the importance of an active body for an active mind — weekends included. If nothing else, it will also counteract that glass of wine and cheese platter from Saturday night.

Steve Jobs: Prioritize what’s important

“Things don’t have to change the world to be important.” Weekends are the time to remind yourself of the forgotten little things — to keep your work-life harmony (the new ‘balance’) in check and reset if needed. Spending time with your friends, children or partner might not directly increase profits that day or propel you into the limelight, but that doesn’t make it any less important. Even the current US President famously makes time to sit down for dinner with his family.

Warren Buffet: Make time for hobbies

He may be considered the most successful investor of the 20th century, but in his “spare” time Buffett likes to play the ukulele. Successful people are often interesting people — and their hobbies have a lot to do with that. Sure, golfing on Saturdays can be a great way to network and source business opportunities. But, even solo hobbies — knitting like Meryl Streep or oil painting like George W. Bush — can aid success through fostering creativity and relieving stress.

Oprah: Practice stillness

Forbes’ most powerful celebrity of 2013 still finds time to sit in stillness for 20 minutes — twice a day! This once-best-kept secret of the yogis is now common knowledge. Even the corporate world is acknowledging the benefits of meditation and mindfulness for reducing stress, improving productivity, facilitating creativity and maintaining general well-being. The weekends can often be busier than week days with attempting to cram in chores, exercise, family commitments, social engagements and more into a 48-hour period. The most successful people take daily time out for stillness, weekends included. They don’t call it a meditation “practice” for nothing.

Randi Zuckerberg: Forget FOMO, Embrace JOMO

We’ve all done it — posted a tastefully filtered snap of our weekend antics or checked in on social media to elicit “likes” and envy from our friends/followers (#bragging). Enter, the era of FOMO (fear of missing out). On weekends, we’re even more prone to FOMO. But the founder and CEO of Zuckerberg Media (and, you guessed it, the sister to Facebook’s creator) says people should be focusing on JOMO (the joy of missing out) — the mantra that “there is nowhere I’d rather be than exactly where I am.” Successful people are often competitive, high achievers by nature — practicing an attitude of gratitude and resisting social-media-induced FOMO is key for a happy weekend. And isn’t happiness the real marker of success?

Bill Gates: Take time to reflect

The founder of Microsoft famously said, “It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” Reflection should be a daily practice but the weekends are a perfect opportunity to step back and reflect on the lessons of the previous week and to make improvements for the next. Author of “The Happiness Project,” Gretchen Rubin, suggests starting a “one sentence journal” to encourage daily reflection. Make Saturday or Sunday your day to flick back through the week’s entries!

Richard Branson: Give back

This billionaire entrepreneur says that “it is amazing how focusing your mind on issues like health, poverty, conservation and climate change can help to re-energize your thinking in other areas.” Successful people agree with Anne Frank: “No one has ever become poor from giving.” Tom Corley studied the rich for five years before writing his book “Wealthy Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals.” He found that 73% of wealthy people volunteer for five or more hours per month. Nothing helps put things in perspective and reduce stress more than helping those less fortunate. Weekends are a great time to get involved in local and community volunteer events.

Jack Dorsey: Get ready for the rest of the week

The Twitter and Square co-founder is notorious for 16-hour work days from Monday to Friday but says, “Saturday I take off. I hike. And then Sunday is reflections, feedback, strategy and getting ready for the rest of the week.” Forget Sunday blues, let’s call it “Sort-Your-Life-Out Sunday.” Laura Vanderkam, author of “What the Most Successful People Do on the Weekend,” says successful people know that weekends are actually the secret weapon in professional success: “You need to hit Monday ready to go.”

Jay Z: Keep up the momentum

He’s made an empire as a highly successful rap artist and entrepreneur, and the secret is right there in his lyrics: “You can want success all you want, but to get it, you can’t falter. You can’t slip. You can’t sleep. One eye open, for real, and forever.” (Decoded) Jay Z didn’t become worth $520 million by only wanting it five out of seven days of the week. If you want to eventually spend your weekends on a luxury yacht in the Caribbean with Beyoncé, unrelenting grit and persistence might just get you there. Well, we can always dream, right?

It’s settled then. Success is a 24/7 lifestyle choice — weekends included! So what are you ACTUALLY doing this weekend? :)

How to approach girls, featuring my cute nephew in USA. :)

How to approach a girl. He makes it so easy. :)

Step 1: Be cute

Step 2: Locate girl across the room

Step 3: Stop eating and think how to approach the girl

Step 4: Offer food to the girl

Step 5: Eat together

Step 6: Eat together but closer this time

Step 7: Mission accomplished! Happy!

10 Types of Women That Men Do Not Want to Marry

I've read about the reasons from various sources but i'll just write up about a few factors which to my humble opinion weighs more than the rest. Yes, i do agree that there are a lot of bloody bastard guys out there whom are players, womanizers and etc which inevitably give MAN a bad name and not to forget leaving the good guys being unwillingly tagged and associated with those bloody bastards. But women/girls! there are good men out there and when you do have/find one, don't screw up for some "short thrill" as it will be almost impossible to find good guys/men out there since the "bloody bastards" type are filling the earth like cockroaches nowadays! However, good guys/men too have preferences in choosing their partners and these are the few, which in my humble opinion, are the crucial factors that may drive them away. Hence ladies, maybe you can make some head-way on this to avoid being in these categories:

Miss "Bossy Pants": This woman usually can't help herself; she has bossy in her DNA. When a man first meets her, he might think this character trait is cute, for awhile. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher, he will give this woman her walking papers.

Miss "Playing Games With His Heart": This woman thinks that being a game player will help her land a man. However, even though a man might be intrigued by a hard to get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straightshooter. If this woman doesn't remove Battleship from her repertoire quite quickly, she will be shown the door before she can even sink his vessel.

Miss "I Want To Change You": This woman is lurking everywhere. She is the type of woman many men are the most leery of. (Of course, there are some men who love this woman because of their own insecurities.) She claims that she loves her guy just the way he is, but little by little, she chips away at just about everything about him. First, it's his wardrobe, then it's his taste in music. However, when she gets to his friends and his hobbies, she is usually kicked to the curb.

Miss "Suspiciously Jealous": This woman is on edge all the time because she is very distrusting. Many times, she has been burnt in the past, so she is on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets this woman, he sees her as a damsel in distress and wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice to leave her because he can't go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else's crimes.

Miss "I Live For You And I Have Nothing Else Going On": This woman is very difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that she is so into him, but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by her. As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not just waiting by the door for him to come home.

Miss "I Have Daddy Issues": This woman usually dates older men and deep down is looking for a father figure, not a boyfriend or husband. Initially, her guy might like how she looks to him for approval and the answer to all of her questions, but soon, he realizes that he wants to have sex with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get Daddy to notice her.

Miss "I Speak To My Mother Five Times A Day About Everything": This woman has her mother on speed dial and can't seem to make a decision or do anything without getting her opinion. When a guy first meets her, he thinks it's nice that she is so close to her family, but soon, he finds it to be way too much. A man just doesn't want to have to ask her mother's permission about things in his life.

Miss "Shhh, I Shouldn't Really Be Saying This, But...": This woman is like a human Page Six. She loves to gossip and talk about other people and she loves to hear things about other people as well. Initially when a guy meets her, he might be entertained by her anecdotes but eventually, he begins to wonder what she is saying behind his back.

Miss "Keeping Up With The Joneses": This woman needs to be at least as good as everyone else she knows. She is constantly talking about what the other people do and what the other people have. This places a lot of undue pressure on her guy and eventually, he justs gets fed up that she can't appreciate what they have instead of wishing she was someone else.

Miss "I Don't Eat": This woman picks at her food, is on a never-ending diet or doesn't eat pretty much everything that most people eat. When a man first meets her, he thinks to himself, at least she will never become overweight, but eventually he realizes that it's no fun to eat alone. The fact is men like to eat; they like steak, they like trying different foods, they like dessert and women should be eating too, at least sometimes.

Keep in mind that most men just want a happy and easy going woman who has good values, so just focus on putting the best YOU out there.

So, that's about what i can think of but just maybe you can think of any other types of women that are unattractive to men?

Simple equation, complicated minds, disruptive characters

Simple right? 1+1=2. The universal fact and even a small kid knows that. Even a child learning his/her ABC's know that. So, why is it that adults fail to know or understand such a simple equation which we had known since young. Stupidity? Heck no. I'll get back to this "simple" equation and why i have it early in this post.

Sometimes it really blows my top and I cringe hard when someone I know comes up to me with some problems with their relationships. Human behavior is, that if someone you know complains about some problem in their relationships, you most likely may side that someone as he/she is either your friend or relative or just someone close to you. For me, i take a different approach. As they say, there is always two sides of a story. So, yes, i was approached by a friend about a relationship problem between her and her better half. After all the yada yada that she kept blurting out and showing the text messages that transpired between herself and her better half, i needed an asprin myself. Adding salt to injury, i still haven't recovered from my almost-2-weeks cough.

The first thing I had to point out to my this frantically-going-nuts friend of mine was the root of the problem. You know, we always look at things or people and say "how i wish i had that" or how i wish my girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband was like that". But in actual fact, their better half they have now is exactly what they have been looking for. But they were treated like dirt..unbothered about how they feel, or when they don't have the mood or don't feel like it, just snub them aside and probably throw insane tantrums at them. I mean who in the first place do you think they are to you? DOGS? ROBOTS? So, this particular friend of mine, good thing is that i do know her better half too and he is a really great guy. So, the first thing i asked my friend was "did he talk to you about this?" she went on blabbing that yes he did but.......i just couldn't make out the rest as god, if i absorb another word from this crazy friend of mine, i'll probably smack her upside-down. Hence, i went on to say, "look, your bf wants to talk to you. but u're not listening. you want things to go your own f-ing way only. If that's the case, why not just get married to yourself and use a dildo all the time?". In many relationships, couples who bravado about themselves that they are this and that, goodie-two-shoes, ms/mr perfect and they have this crazy expectation that everyone is suppose to give way to them and they are not suppose to change anything about themselves. To me that's is so immature..down right immature. A relationship and even more in a marriage, it's about 2 individuals becoming one. As the saying goes, it takes two hands to clap.

My friend was complaining that she just had an argument with her better half and i swear to god, it was so trivial, that even a 4 year old child will laugh. They were arguing about small little NOTHINGS. which made me feel like i should shoot myself to get away from the misery. My friend just kept insulting her bf and she just did not understand the meaning of love and being together. I just had to ask her one thing, "what if your better half did EXACTLY the same thing to you like what you did and say to him now, would you be mad?". and of course, i expected an answer like this: "he dares? i'll kill him". So, my next question is, "who do you think you are then? If you don't like people to do the same to you, why the hell are you doing it to others?" And for heavens sake this friend of mine, she has suddenly just stopped showing affection to her better half, but she complains "he never says I love you to me anymore". I asked her to send me whatever texts she had with him and my god, her better half was like everyday asking nicely, "dear have you eaten?", "dear, don't forget to wear a jacket when it's cold" and YES, i saw several messages that her better half did mention he loves her very much..but slowly fading and i could see why. it's because, it was she herself who does not respond to any of these affections. I told her to seriously go change her contact lenses to a higher power if she wore one and f-ing read all the texts again that she has with him. When your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband shows affection to you, by all means do f-ing respond and show them your love too! OMG, that was so hard that I had to get a double PHD for that...i mean cmon, that's just so simple! EVERYONE, be it a guy or a girl would want to be loved and appreciated for what they have done. EVERYONE wants that. so, if you love that guy/girl, what so hard for you to show a affection or to show love to your other half? what the F is stopping you? face? ego? That brings me back to the equation of 1+1=2. so, the universal fact is 1+1=2..there will be no change for that. But people expect 1+0=2. why 0? is because they do not want to do anything or maybe do some small things and expect the equation to be 2. It's not just a one-time-off-thing that you do and it last for the rest of your whole relationship life, it's always a constant everyday small little things that makes the relationship grow. My friend wants 1+0=2 or 1+0.5=2. Is she insane?

There were just so many things she went yada yada about but i'll just write about one more thing. She mentioned that she had been stressed out with her work and etc. and she is "too lazy" to type or talk more to the better half. For crying out loud, she thinks she is the only one busy there and his better half isn't at all. I just slammed at her and said, "cmon, grow up will you? how is it that your bf is busy too but still find time to chat or talk to you and mind you, it's alot of times he wants too have a nice conversation with you but you just turn him flat down by answering his texts with really short replies..and additional to that, with no affection, what-so-ever. you're lucky that he doesn't have another girl for himself and even IF he does, you can't blame him as you have sidelined him yourself." You see, i saw this video by Mark Gungor, and in that video he mentioned that affairs most of the time are not just about sex, it's about emotion. It's because in a relationship, one individual in the couple had dismissed or neglected the other half's dreams, sharings, feelings and emotions and when that other poor emotionally neglected half talks to some bimbo, and this bimbo finds his dreams, sharings, feelings and emotions are great things, that the neglector is now in trouble. I absolutely agree with Mark. My friend doesn't know that her better half is a human being who has emotions and feelings and also want to be loved the same way as he loves her! And my friend's better half is an entrepreneur and i do know entrepreneurs have alot of shit to do (although we look at them like they have nothing to do but they really do have a lot of shit to do. even more than any average working class people) and still find time to try to talk to my friend and show his affections to her. I really pity him. I just had to tell off my lunatic friend, "look, you have a great guy with you now. do you remember how much u were telling me how great he is? I know him too and i kn0w he is a great person. if you continue your disruptive character, being egoistic and stubborn, i'm telling you, you are only pushing him away yourself, not others. if you think you're like this and you are stubborn and hard headed not to change yourself, then i suggest you get a dildo and use it on yourself for the rest of your life!" Yes, the saying goes we should be loved for who we are. I'm not altering that perspective but for crying out loud, if you have found someone really good and you know he/she is a great person, please in the name of god, lower your ego, stubbornness and other disruptive characters that will indefinitely disrupt your relationship. There is nothing wrong in apologizing and i can place all my marbles on that, that your better half would appreciate that fully.

I told my friend one last advice, "before you even want to get angry and criticize and scold your better half, please do think if those exact same words you're gonna use is used against you. If you do not like those words to be used on you, then for love of god, don't use it on your better half."

"Do not disappoint the wrong people just because you don't know how to check on yourself"

How can we be happy?

A wonderful short story :: HOW CAN WE BE HAPPY ?

Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar.

Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.

Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it.

Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began— exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness.

And this is the purpose of human life.

Is this not what you are looking for?