Some habits of highly successful people during weekends.

I’ve read countless articles about what successful people do on their weekends. Do you want to know the secret? It’s the same thing that they do every other day. As Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Here are 12 weekend habits of highly successful people:

Robert Iger: Get up early

This Disney CEO is not the only executive claiming to rise at 4:30 every morning. Successful people do not stay in bed until 2 p.m. on a Sunday. Or even 11 a.m. Research shows that our brains are sharpest two and a half to four hours after waking. Get up early on a weekend and you’ve got a head start on the rest of the world.

Benjamin Franklin: Have a plan

Apparently, this founding father asked himself every morning, “What good shall I do today?” Successful people know the importance of even daily goals — the weekends are no exception. Sure, they can be a time for (planned and purposeful) rejuvenation, but you don’t have to be President to know that general slacking off is not an option.

Timothy Ferris: Don’t multi-task

Multi-tasking is so 2005. It may be tempting to maximize your weekend productivity by running on the treadmill while calling your mother and trolling your newsfeed, but successful people know that this just reduces efficiency and effectiveness. Instead, be present for each single activity. Ferris recommends a maximum of two goals or tasks per day to ensure productivity and accomplishments align.

Anna Wintour: Stay active

Vogue’s editor-in-chief commits to playing tennis for one hour every day. And she’s not the only big-shot making time for exercise. Richard Branson stays active with kite surfing and India’s fourth-richest billionaire is a serial marathon runner. Successful people know the importance of an active body for an active mind — weekends included. If nothing else, it will also counteract that glass of wine and cheese platter from Saturday night.

Steve Jobs: Prioritize what’s important

“Things don’t have to change the world to be important.” Weekends are the time to remind yourself of the forgotten little things — to keep your work-life harmony (the new ‘balance’) in check and reset if needed. Spending time with your friends, children or partner might not directly increase profits that day or propel you into the limelight, but that doesn’t make it any less important. Even the current US President famously makes time to sit down for dinner with his family.

Warren Buffet: Make time for hobbies

He may be considered the most successful investor of the 20th century, but in his “spare” time Buffett likes to play the ukulele. Successful people are often interesting people — and their hobbies have a lot to do with that. Sure, golfing on Saturdays can be a great way to network and source business opportunities. But, even solo hobbies — knitting like Meryl Streep or oil painting like George W. Bush — can aid success through fostering creativity and relieving stress.

Oprah: Practice stillness

Forbes’ most powerful celebrity of 2013 still finds time to sit in stillness for 20 minutes — twice a day! This once-best-kept secret of the yogis is now common knowledge. Even the corporate world is acknowledging the benefits of meditation and mindfulness for reducing stress, improving productivity, facilitating creativity and maintaining general well-being. The weekends can often be busier than week days with attempting to cram in chores, exercise, family commitments, social engagements and more into a 48-hour period. The most successful people take daily time out for stillness, weekends included. They don’t call it a meditation “practice” for nothing.

Randi Zuckerberg: Forget FOMO, Embrace JOMO

We’ve all done it — posted a tastefully filtered snap of our weekend antics or checked in on social media to elicit “likes” and envy from our friends/followers (#bragging). Enter, the era of FOMO (fear of missing out). On weekends, we’re even more prone to FOMO. But the founder and CEO of Zuckerberg Media (and, you guessed it, the sister to Facebook’s creator) says people should be focusing on JOMO (the joy of missing out) — the mantra that “there is nowhere I’d rather be than exactly where I am.” Successful people are often competitive, high achievers by nature — practicing an attitude of gratitude and resisting social-media-induced FOMO is key for a happy weekend. And isn’t happiness the real marker of success?

Bill Gates: Take time to reflect

The founder of Microsoft famously said, “It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” Reflection should be a daily practice but the weekends are a perfect opportunity to step back and reflect on the lessons of the previous week and to make improvements for the next. Author of “The Happiness Project,” Gretchen Rubin, suggests starting a “one sentence journal” to encourage daily reflection. Make Saturday or Sunday your day to flick back through the week’s entries!

Richard Branson: Give back

This billionaire entrepreneur says that “it is amazing how focusing your mind on issues like health, poverty, conservation and climate change can help to re-energize your thinking in other areas.” Successful people agree with Anne Frank: “No one has ever become poor from giving.” Tom Corley studied the rich for five years before writing his book “Wealthy Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals.” He found that 73% of wealthy people volunteer for five or more hours per month. Nothing helps put things in perspective and reduce stress more than helping those less fortunate. Weekends are a great time to get involved in local and community volunteer events.

Jack Dorsey: Get ready for the rest of the week

The Twitter and Square co-founder is notorious for 16-hour work days from Monday to Friday but says, “Saturday I take off. I hike. And then Sunday is reflections, feedback, strategy and getting ready for the rest of the week.” Forget Sunday blues, let’s call it “Sort-Your-Life-Out Sunday.” Laura Vanderkam, author of “What the Most Successful People Do on the Weekend,” says successful people know that weekends are actually the secret weapon in professional success: “You need to hit Monday ready to go.”

Jay Z: Keep up the momentum

He’s made an empire as a highly successful rap artist and entrepreneur, and the secret is right there in his lyrics: “You can want success all you want, but to get it, you can’t falter. You can’t slip. You can’t sleep. One eye open, for real, and forever.” (Decoded) Jay Z didn’t become worth $520 million by only wanting it five out of seven days of the week. If you want to eventually spend your weekends on a luxury yacht in the Caribbean with Beyoncé, unrelenting grit and persistence might just get you there. Well, we can always dream, right?

It’s settled then. Success is a 24/7 lifestyle choice — weekends included! So what are you ACTUALLY doing this weekend? :)

How to approach girls, featuring my cute nephew in USA. :)

How to approach a girl. He makes it so easy. :)

Step 1: Be cute

Step 2: Locate girl across the room

Step 3: Stop eating and think how to approach the girl

Step 4: Offer food to the girl

Step 5: Eat together

Step 6: Eat together but closer this time

Step 7: Mission accomplished! Happy!

10 Types of Women That Men Do Not Want to Marry

I've read about the reasons from various sources but i'll just write up about a few factors which to my humble opinion weighs more than the rest. Yes, i do agree that there are a lot of bloody bastard guys out there whom are players, womanizers and etc which inevitably give MAN a bad name and not to forget leaving the good guys being unwillingly tagged and associated with those bloody bastards. But women/girls! there are good men out there and when you do have/find one, don't screw up for some "short thrill" as it will be almost impossible to find good guys/men out there since the "bloody bastards" type are filling the earth like cockroaches nowadays! However, good guys/men too have preferences in choosing their partners and these are the few, which in my humble opinion, are the crucial factors that may drive them away. Hence ladies, maybe you can make some head-way on this to avoid being in these categories:

Miss "Bossy Pants": This woman usually can't help herself; she has bossy in her DNA. When a man first meets her, he might think this character trait is cute, for awhile. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher, he will give this woman her walking papers.

Miss "Playing Games With His Heart": This woman thinks that being a game player will help her land a man. However, even though a man might be intrigued by a hard to get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straightshooter. If this woman doesn't remove Battleship from her repertoire quite quickly, she will be shown the door before she can even sink his vessel.

Miss "I Want To Change You": This woman is lurking everywhere. She is the type of woman many men are the most leery of. (Of course, there are some men who love this woman because of their own insecurities.) She claims that she loves her guy just the way he is, but little by little, she chips away at just about everything about him. First, it's his wardrobe, then it's his taste in music. However, when she gets to his friends and his hobbies, she is usually kicked to the curb.

Miss "Suspiciously Jealous": This woman is on edge all the time because she is very distrusting. Many times, she has been burnt in the past, so she is on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets this woman, he sees her as a damsel in distress and wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice to leave her because he can't go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else's crimes.

Miss "I Live For You And I Have Nothing Else Going On": This woman is very difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that she is so into him, but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by her. As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not just waiting by the door for him to come home.

Miss "I Have Daddy Issues": This woman usually dates older men and deep down is looking for a father figure, not a boyfriend or husband. Initially, her guy might like how she looks to him for approval and the answer to all of her questions, but soon, he realizes that he wants to have sex with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get Daddy to notice her.

Miss "I Speak To My Mother Five Times A Day About Everything": This woman has her mother on speed dial and can't seem to make a decision or do anything without getting her opinion. When a guy first meets her, he thinks it's nice that she is so close to her family, but soon, he finds it to be way too much. A man just doesn't want to have to ask her mother's permission about things in his life.

Miss "Shhh, I Shouldn't Really Be Saying This, But...": This woman is like a human Page Six. She loves to gossip and talk about other people and she loves to hear things about other people as well. Initially when a guy meets her, he might be entertained by her anecdotes but eventually, he begins to wonder what she is saying behind his back.

Miss "Keeping Up With The Joneses": This woman needs to be at least as good as everyone else she knows. She is constantly talking about what the other people do and what the other people have. This places a lot of undue pressure on her guy and eventually, he justs gets fed up that she can't appreciate what they have instead of wishing she was someone else.

Miss "I Don't Eat": This woman picks at her food, is on a never-ending diet or doesn't eat pretty much everything that most people eat. When a man first meets her, he thinks to himself, at least she will never become overweight, but eventually he realizes that it's no fun to eat alone. The fact is men like to eat; they like steak, they like trying different foods, they like dessert and women should be eating too, at least sometimes.

Keep in mind that most men just want a happy and easy going woman who has good values, so just focus on putting the best YOU out there.

So, that's about what i can think of but just maybe you can think of any other types of women that are unattractive to men?

Simple equation, complicated minds, disruptive characters

Simple right? 1+1=2. The universal fact and even a small kid knows that. Even a child learning his/her ABC's know that. So, why is it that adults fail to know or understand such a simple equation which we had known since young. Stupidity? Heck no. I'll get back to this "simple" equation and why i have it early in this post.

Sometimes it really blows my top and I cringe hard when someone I know comes up to me with some problems with their relationships. Human behavior is, that if someone you know complains about some problem in their relationships, you most likely may side that someone as he/she is either your friend or relative or just someone close to you. For me, i take a different approach. As they say, there is always two sides of a story. So, yes, i was approached by a friend about a relationship problem between her and her better half. After all the yada yada that she kept blurting out and showing the text messages that transpired between herself and her better half, i needed an asprin myself. Adding salt to injury, i still haven't recovered from my almost-2-weeks cough.

The first thing I had to point out to my this frantically-going-nuts friend of mine was the root of the problem. You know, we always look at things or people and say "how i wish i had that" or how i wish my girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband was like that". But in actual fact, their better half they have now is exactly what they have been looking for. But they were treated like dirt..unbothered about how they feel, or when they don't have the mood or don't feel like it, just snub them aside and probably throw insane tantrums at them. I mean who in the first place do you think they are to you? DOGS? ROBOTS? So, this particular friend of mine, good thing is that i do know her better half too and he is a really great guy. So, the first thing i asked my friend was "did he talk to you about this?" she went on blabbing that yes he did but.......i just couldn't make out the rest as god, if i absorb another word from this crazy friend of mine, i'll probably smack her upside-down. Hence, i went on to say, "look, your bf wants to talk to you. but u're not listening. you want things to go your own f-ing way only. If that's the case, why not just get married to yourself and use a dildo all the time?". In many relationships, couples who bravado about themselves that they are this and that, goodie-two-shoes, ms/mr perfect and they have this crazy expectation that everyone is suppose to give way to them and they are not suppose to change anything about themselves. To me that's is so immature..down right immature. A relationship and even more in a marriage, it's about 2 individuals becoming one. As the saying goes, it takes two hands to clap.

My friend was complaining that she just had an argument with her better half and i swear to god, it was so trivial, that even a 4 year old child will laugh. They were arguing about small little NOTHINGS. which made me feel like i should shoot myself to get away from the misery. My friend just kept insulting her bf and she just did not understand the meaning of love and being together. I just had to ask her one thing, "what if your better half did EXACTLY the same thing to you like what you did and say to him now, would you be mad?". and of course, i expected an answer like this: "he dares? i'll kill him". So, my next question is, "who do you think you are then? If you don't like people to do the same to you, why the hell are you doing it to others?" And for heavens sake this friend of mine, she has suddenly just stopped showing affection to her better half, but she complains "he never says I love you to me anymore". I asked her to send me whatever texts she had with him and my god, her better half was like everyday asking nicely, "dear have you eaten?", "dear, don't forget to wear a jacket when it's cold" and YES, i saw several messages that her better half did mention he loves her very much..but slowly fading and i could see why. it's because, it was she herself who does not respond to any of these affections. I told her to seriously go change her contact lenses to a higher power if she wore one and f-ing read all the texts again that she has with him. When your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband shows affection to you, by all means do f-ing respond and show them your love too! OMG, that was so hard that I had to get a double PHD for that...i mean cmon, that's just so simple! EVERYONE, be it a guy or a girl would want to be loved and appreciated for what they have done. EVERYONE wants that. so, if you love that guy/girl, what so hard for you to show a affection or to show love to your other half? what the F is stopping you? face? ego? That brings me back to the equation of 1+1=2. so, the universal fact is 1+1=2..there will be no change for that. But people expect 1+0=2. why 0? is because they do not want to do anything or maybe do some small things and expect the equation to be 2. It's not just a one-time-off-thing that you do and it last for the rest of your whole relationship life, it's always a constant everyday small little things that makes the relationship grow. My friend wants 1+0=2 or 1+0.5=2. Is she insane?

There were just so many things she went yada yada about but i'll just write about one more thing. She mentioned that she had been stressed out with her work and etc. and she is "too lazy" to type or talk more to the better half. For crying out loud, she thinks she is the only one busy there and his better half isn't at all. I just slammed at her and said, "cmon, grow up will you? how is it that your bf is busy too but still find time to chat or talk to you and mind you, it's alot of times he wants too have a nice conversation with you but you just turn him flat down by answering his texts with really short replies..and additional to that, with no affection, what-so-ever. you're lucky that he doesn't have another girl for himself and even IF he does, you can't blame him as you have sidelined him yourself." You see, i saw this video by Mark Gungor, and in that video he mentioned that affairs most of the time are not just about sex, it's about emotion. It's because in a relationship, one individual in the couple had dismissed or neglected the other half's dreams, sharings, feelings and emotions and when that other poor emotionally neglected half talks to some bimbo, and this bimbo finds his dreams, sharings, feelings and emotions are great things, that the neglector is now in trouble. I absolutely agree with Mark. My friend doesn't know that her better half is a human being who has emotions and feelings and also want to be loved the same way as he loves her! And my friend's better half is an entrepreneur and i do know entrepreneurs have alot of shit to do (although we look at them like they have nothing to do but they really do have a lot of shit to do. even more than any average working class people) and still find time to try to talk to my friend and show his affections to her. I really pity him. I just had to tell off my lunatic friend, "look, you have a great guy with you now. do you remember how much u were telling me how great he is? I know him too and i kn0w he is a great person. if you continue your disruptive character, being egoistic and stubborn, i'm telling you, you are only pushing him away yourself, not others. if you think you're like this and you are stubborn and hard headed not to change yourself, then i suggest you get a dildo and use it on yourself for the rest of your life!" Yes, the saying goes we should be loved for who we are. I'm not altering that perspective but for crying out loud, if you have found someone really good and you know he/she is a great person, please in the name of god, lower your ego, stubbornness and other disruptive characters that will indefinitely disrupt your relationship. There is nothing wrong in apologizing and i can place all my marbles on that, that your better half would appreciate that fully.

I told my friend one last advice, "before you even want to get angry and criticize and scold your better half, please do think if those exact same words you're gonna use is used against you. If you do not like those words to be used on you, then for love of god, don't use it on your better half."

"Do not disappoint the wrong people just because you don't know how to check on yourself"

How can we be happy?

A wonderful short story :: HOW CAN WE BE HAPPY ?

Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar.

Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.

Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it.

Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began— exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness.

And this is the purpose of human life.

Is this not what you are looking for?

Several things to stop fighting about in a relationship

All couples argue. It's not only normal, but can be healthy for your relationship. Still, there are a few issues many of us fight about that don't need to cause as much stress as they do.

I've read somewhere about a lady named Lisa Brookes Kift, a marriage and family therapist, says disagreements in any relationship are inevitable, but that working through issues productively is a choice. Here she offers her insight into the five things you should stop fighting about in your relationship this fall – and how best to do so.

1. Misunderstandings 

If you've ever lashed out at your significant other only to realize you've jumped to the wrong conclusion, you're not alone. "Much of what couples get into tiffs about revolves around miscommunication," explains Brookes Kift. "One person feels hurt or angry by what they believe the other meant by something."

Very often the very thing that caused the anger is not even accurate. The solution is to check in with your partner about what you assumed he or she meant. "Give them a chance to clarify," she says. "If more couples made a habit of this, there would be far more relationship harmony."

It sounds like a simple solution, but when making assumptions, people often react first before checking in, which can cause unnecessary spats.

2. Insecurities and lack of emotional safety 

I've also read that was noted by Brookes Kift that some couples have no idea that they are ultimately fighting because they don't feel secure with each other. Not experiencing your partner as a safe haven tends to cause distress that can show up in a lot of ways, especially in arguments.

"Emotional safety, in my definition, is about feeling prioritized, respected, validated and loved. Couples who have this basic foundation in place benefit with the sense of knowing they are on solid ground together," she explains.

The solution is to get educated on the elements of a safe and secure relationship and to discuss what each of your needs are and what buttons not to push.

"Make it a priority to know what each other's emotional wounds are, and be sensitive to them," she says.

3. Time spent together

People often come together in a relationship with different levels of expectations of how much "me" and "we" time they need.

"This often becomes a point of contention, particularly when one person has an expectation of more than the other," says Brookes Kift. "It's important that both are validated."

It's important to try to strike a balance that allows both parties to feel loved, but to also have a sense of independence within the relationship. "Be open to listening to each other about your needs. Find ways to honour them both and compromise," she advises.

4. Communication

I've written this in one of my post previously and i believe this should be one of the strong basis that couples should have with each other.

This one always surprises me. Women love to talk. They talk to our girlfriends constantly; they’re always on the phone to our mother, bitching to co-workers, complaining to our boss. WHY is it when it comes to relationships, these communication skills go straight out the window?!

How many times have girlfriends come to me complaining about how they’re pissed at their man because he’s fucked something up? And when I ask if they told their significant other why they’re pissed, the usual response is “No – he should already KNOW why I’m mad.” or "No - he should already KNOW what I want or what to do".

Ah, are you dating a psychic? Can he read your mind? Unless you are, then here’s the kicker – no man is going to know you’re mad, or why you’re mad unless you actually tell him.

You want him to go down on you a certain way? Remember that men are won't know when it comes to eating girls out – vaginas are like a really hard Sudoku puzzle and no man can figure out the ideal combination. Some girls like two fingers here, one thumb in there and tongue going in a counterclockwise direction, other girls like a fist in once and just a knuckle in the other.

What I’m trying to say is that every girl is different, so if you want to enjoy sex and stop faking your orgasms,  or want him to give a helping hand on something for you, then you need to communicate what you want.

5. Lack of responsibility

It's easier to point the finger than it is to take ownership over anything you might do that causes tension in your relationship.

Brookes Kift said, "The real skill is being able to hold up a mirror to your own behaviour and not only own it, but offer a relationship repair if damage has been done"

Make a habit of asking yourself what your role is in any regular arguments that occur. "Mindful reflection on this matter can reduce blame and provide a more balanced perspective on a matter that may very well involve both partners," she advises.

"There are many potential stumbling blocks for couples, some you may not have even considered," says Kift. It's important to be aware of the root cause of an issue so you can come up with a solution before the argument gets out of hand. Being in a relationship is all about working through things as a team, not against one another.

Stuff High EQ people DON'T do.

Many people hang their success in life on their IQ level. Yet, there is something that can be an even stronger predictor of success. We all know really smart people who are limited in their lives because they just don’t play well with others. They have high IQs, but horribly low EQs. The good news is that while your IQ may be a bit harder to change, anyone can work on developing a better EQ.

Why should you care about enhancing your EQ? Because people who have developed their emotional intelligence enjoy more success in every area of life: social, emotional, physical, and financial. This is because life almost always involves interacting in some way with other people, and high EQ people just make each interaction more rewarding for everyone.

While EQ isn’t always easy to change quickly, with a bit of effort, most people can improve their emotional intelligence with coaching, self-introspection, and feedback from others. The other good news is that EQ naturally increases with age, even if you don’t conscientiously work on furthering it.

There are four main pillars that support a healthy emotional intellect.

• High EQ people are self aware. Instead of just feeling without understanding the source, they can trace their emotions back to their origins and see them logically. They also have a realistic grasp of their strengths and weaknesses.
• High EQ people conduct self management. They can rein themselves in, delay gratification, account for the needs of others, and balance their desires accordingly. They can also walk the middle ground between initiative and patience. They handle change well and follow through with commitments.
• High EQ people are socially aware. They understand and tune into other people’s emotions and can adapt to unspoken social cues. They can also see the interpersonal interactions within groups and larger organizations.
• High EQ people excel at relationship management. They just play well with others, inspire and influence people positively, communicate well, and manage conflict proactively.
• In short, high EQ people draw you in and make you want to stay in their circles. How do you know if you have a high EQ? One way is to look at what emotional intellectuals don’t do.

1. They don’t react rashly.

Instead of reacting, high EQ people craft calculated responses. Life is full of stressors. Everyone has their own battles. However, people with high EQ learn to manage their responses to triggers in a proactive way. They learn how to calm down and relax in situations where low EQ people revert to panic and fear. They manage their more basic tendencies to react emotionally and filter that through their reasoning abilities to default to stress management activities.

High EQ people learn to not make decisions when angry, hurt, or scared. Instead, they self manage, get to a better mental state, and then make better decisions after reviewing the situation from their happy place.

2. They don’t avoid new experiences, ideas, or people.

I’m not saying that people with high EQ don’t have strong beliefs or ideas. They do. However, they are not afraid of learning more about other perspectives or having their beliefs challenged. They are open in their thinking vs. closed. They are intellectually curious. They often have friends from every walk of life and faith. They always seek new possibilities. They understand that they can’t always be right, and have the humility to embrace the fact that there is always more that they can learn.

Even when they do disagree with a concept, they consider why their first initial response was to dislike the idea and self analyze why this occurs. They refrain from reacting solely emotionally, and instead respond intelligently.

High EQ individuals see the best in other people. They aren’t afraid to accept help from others, as they realize their own limits and lean on trusted mentors when necessary.

High EQ people are not afraid of change and don’t need rules and structure to feel secure. They don’t remain emotionally unavailable to others or withhold intimacy from their loved ones. They aren’t afraid to have their beliefs or ideas challenged. They also don’t stubbornly cling to concepts and refuse to even entertain new facts that are presented to them.

3. They don’t focus only on self.

This is not to say that high EQ individuals don’t take time for themselves when needed. In fact, going into martyrdom mode is also not healthy. However, high EQ people are empathetic towards others. When it comes to people, they focus more externally vs. being self-absorbed. Instead of seeing life through the lens of their own needs and wants, they have the ability to look at the world from a bigger perspective and walk a mile in another person’s shoes. They are also more forgiving of themselves and others.

High EQ people don’t attack, judge, interrupt, invalidate, criticize, command, lecture, or blame people. They also don’t try to analyze others when they try to share their feelings. They aren’t jealous over loved one’s successes, but celebrate their victories.

4. They don’t become bitter.

Many people don’t take responsibility for their feelings; instead, they blame outside sources for them. However, if you think about it, this is a very basic way to behave. What happens if you take a toy from a child before they are ready to give it up? They cry and throw a tantrum.

You may have met people who still react like a two-year-old child when they are challenged. It’s so much more healthy for people to grow up emotionally as they grow up physically, but this doesn’t always occur. We can all usually “see” what’s wrong in a situation, but most low EQ people don’t move past that step of identifying the problem to finding a solution for it. Instead, they follow the predicable negative chain reaction that can lead to implosion.

High EQ individuals are also not afraid of a challenge, and don’t throw in the towel when they realize that they are not on the correct course. They make adjustments and keep working on solutions to their obstacles.

High EQ individuals don’t go through life feeling like the world owes them. They look within to determine why they do what they do, so they aren’t doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over.

5. They don’t stay ignorant about inner motives.

Ultimately, it comes down to what Socrates proclaimed so long ago. To have high EQ, you must “Know Thyself.”

High EQ individuals understand the chain reaction that occurs that brings about their emotions. They also can explain why they are experiencing certain feelings without blaming someone else. High EQ people are never emotionally dishonest and don’t withhold information, or downright lie, about what they are feeling. They also don’t minimize or exaggerate their emotions, nor do they let things build up until they blow up.

Being self aware helps you understand why you react as you do and if needed, to take steps to change it. You must learn who you are, and more importantly, not let others define you with their self-imposed expectations. As you become more self aware and manage your emotions more effectively, you also are able to subsequently better understand the reactions of others. This ultimately creates better personal relationships and overall happiness.

Some great questions to help you discover more about your inner workings are, “Why do I act like that?” “Why do I believe this way?” “Why am I afraid of having that concept challenged?”

6. They don’t clam up or blow up.

High EQ individuals are communication masters. They have excellent verbal and non-verbal communication and listening skills. They manage conflict better, have stronger relationships, and are able to convey thoughts in a non-threatening, respectful manner. Good communication also increases their ability to influence others in a positive way.

High EQ people, in addition to being more aware of their feelings, are also not afraid to share those feelings with others. And, they check their ego in at the door when it comes to gaining wisdom, insight, and feedback from trusted sources.

High EQ people often use phrases such as “I feel..” to express their emotions. However, they don’t use “I feel that…” This phrasing is often a tip off to a thought disguised as a feeling. For example, “I feel like you…” While the true “I feel” messages give necessary information in a non-threatening manner, the “you” messages usually do not reveal the person’s actual feelings, but can be thinly-veiled accusations.

High EQ individuals also don’t lay guilt trips on others. Instead, they always tell them where they honestly stand in the relationship. Instead of acting out their feelings by resorting to negative actions like door slams, moodiness, passive aggression, or silence, they talk about them calmly.

High EQ people also never resort to playing emotional games and manipulating others. They are excellent listeners, and do not interrupt or invalidate. They are open to other opinions and won’t try to “win” an argument by focusing on facts over feelings. They also don’t act superior or use intellect to judge and criticize others without considering the impact of their actions.

7. They don’t forget about balance.

High EQ people look at life from a balanced, positive viewpoint. They aren’t overly pessimistic or unrealistically optimistic. They tend to be happy and successful. They recognize the good in others and in themselves. They are forgiving of flaws. They make the best out of difficult situations, embracing hardships to help fuel their personal development and improvement. They also keep their sense of humor and find the light side of their trials. High EQ people understand what is within their control, and what is not. They don’t beat themselves up for things that they have no ability to influence.

8. They don’t embrace negativity.

High EQ people are not dominated by fear, worry, guilt, shame, embarrassment, obligation, disappointment, hopelessness, powerlessness, dependency, victimization, or discouragement. They do not give or receive manipulation.

High EQ people let their own personal goals and desires motivate them—not power, wealth, status, fame, or approval. They don’t do things because of a false sense of duty, guilt, force, or obligation. They balance out their feelings with reality checks of logic when needed. They are independent, intrinsically motivated, and self reliant. They also aren’t afraid to push out of their comfort zone to reach new heights.

9. They don’t let others get to them.

Do you know people who cause others to walk on eggshells? If you are unlucky enough to inadvertently make them upset, do they carry grudges? This is a sign of very low EQ.

People who have matured emotionally are resilient, able to agree to disagree, and do not internalize failure. Even if they have had a difficult life, they have managed to learn from the pain and become an even more amazing individual. They don’t dwell on the past, but learn from it. They realize that the past is out of their control, so they choose to live in the present and shape it into a better future.

Individuals with high EQ never hold onto self-destructive belief systems and negative self talk. They refuse to feel inadequate, bitter, disappointed, resentful, or victimized. If they have a pity party, it ends quickly and they certainly don’t send out invites. Instead of focusing on their weaknesses, high EQ people target their strengths.

High EQ people refuse to entertain insecurities or cling to negative experiences. They will not be defensive and freely admit when they make a mistake and apologize. They never avoid responsibility by saying things like, “I had no choice!” They never allow other people to make decisions for them, but take the steering wheel of their lives. They are patient people and can roll with the punches when life doesn’t go as planned.

High EQ people never shut out others. While they realize relationships can be painful, they understand the value far exceeds the hurt. They will never seek out substitute relationships with less threatening and more controllable subjects like pets or imaginary people to replace the real thing.

10. They don’t fight with their head and heart.

High EQ people are able to get in touch with what they are feeling, are interested in other people’s feelings, and are comfortable talking about their emotions. However, they also can recognize that feelings don’t equal fact. They tend to look at situations logically, understand why they feel a certain way, and then work through it proactively.

Emotional intelligence is certainly not easy to obtain and requires a lot of introspection and work; which is why it is so rarely found. However, once you have mastered this skill you will stand out from the crowd, and will soon discover better interpersonal relationships, career success, happiness, and peace. That will bring about a lot more inner satisfaction than bumping up your IQ score any day!

7 Types Of Friends You Need To Reject From Your Life

Now, a little off about love relationships and partner finding tips. Let's get to the most common, everyday people we meet or deal with...friends. Yes, there is a funny saying about friends and it goes by; "Friends are like BOOBS, some are BIG. some are SMALL. some are REAL and MOST are FAKE". Well, i won't be talking about the BIG and SMALL ones literally but will be emphasizing the FAKE ones that ought to be eliminated or rejected from anyone's life.


May not be a complete-textbook here but it should give you all a start. Here are the 7 types of friends that i can think off:


1. People who are inconsistent in the way they treat you.

One day, they will treat you like you’re their soul mate and another day they treat you like you are an invisible person and they do not tell you why.

2. People who treat you differently from how they treat their other friends.

When they see you, they greet you without a smile, they aren’t so eager to start a conversation with you, and basically treat you they have no time for you. But when they see their other friends, they become completely different and become the friendliest person ever.

3. People who do not know how to be thankful.

You do something for nice to them and they do not thank you for it. They treat it as if you have done something that you would have obviously done and do not appreciate your generosity.

4. People who do not give back.

People who do not know how to be thankful usually do not give back either. You remember their birthdays and get them gifts, but when it’s your birthday, all you get is “oh it’s your birthday? Happy Birthday.”

5. People who make you feel like you need to impress them.

If you do feel like you need to constantly impress your friends when you hang out with them, they are not your true friends. They are making you feel like you are inferior to them and friends don’t do that.

6. People who only text/call you when they need something from you.

They contact you only when they need help. Their texts don’t even start with “hey! how are you?”; they go straight into asking you for things.

7. People who don’t invite you to their weekend activities.

Whether it is a party, a get-together, or just a dinner, they never invite you and you find out how much fun they had without you by seeing their photos on your Facebook newsfeed

Several Things High Esteemed People DON'T do...

Having high self-esteem is important. Without it, you’re not likely to ever gain any other esteem in life. The thing about self-esteem is everyone who has a high level acts essentially the same. We all have different hopes, dreams, experiences, and paths, but confidence is universal.

The thing about high esteemed people that they do not let all these negative actions or thoughts be it from other people or themselves hinder them from progressing. As i wrote in my last post about being haunted in your past and making that interfere with your present and future, turning yourself and believing on doing the right things in you will definitely combat negativity down to where it's place is. There is a saying "being good is tough but being bad is easy" which exactly what it is in this world. Hence, pull yourself together, discipline yourself and change your thinking and most likely than not, you'll be seeing things will happen according to what you want. So, here are the things people with high self-esteem avoid:

1. They Don’t Compare Themselves to Others

People with low self-esteem are constantly comparing their situation to others – no matter what you say to them, they’re “going through the exact same thing.” On the other hand, people with high self-esteem show empathy and compassion, but they focus on themselves instead of how others are doing. Be it comparing yourself to your bestie or even your own family members, DON'T DO IT. Each and everyone is unique and special and has their own strength. Harness your strength and not diminish it by comparing yourself to someone else.

2. They’re Not Mean-Spirited

People with low self-esteem bully others. They take pleasure in putting other people down. People with high self-esteem see no need to down other people, choosing instead to encourage and celebrate successes. Bullies and abusers are the ones with the lowest self-esteem and the opposite of high self-esteemed people. They abuse and bully people so that they can get what they want; that is people to be dependent and reliant on them so they can take control. So, these people will always do abusive things such as giving terrible and unhealthy comments, scolding or even physically abusing people. High self esteemed people don't need that as people follow and look up to them willingly as they are always with positive and strong spirited energy all the time.

3. They Don’t Let Imperfection Ruin Their Day

Perfectionism isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but obsessing over making everything perfect is a sign that you have low self-esteem. Those with high self-esteem disconnect from the results and do their best without expecting perfection. If someone gossips about you, calls you terrible names like bitch, asshole, whore..etc, those are signs of people who are with extreme low self-esteem. Probably they are miserable that they have a short and tiny dick and unable to satisfy any women or maybe a body figure that can clog the entire grand canyon and despise others who have a beautiful relationship with their partners. So, never let these low self esteemed people get in your way for they are practically targeting weak people so they can "feel" in control.

4. They Stop Dwelling on Failure

It’s common to hear people with low self-esteem dwelling on all the ways things will go wrong. They’re positive their every failure signals an impossible task. People with high self-esteem discover why they failed and try again. Yes, if it failed last time, leave it there in the past. Learn from it and don't repeat it. Alot of times, failures may not be your fault but could be from your previous partners or external factors. Probably previous partners weren't appreciative or you fell for players/cheaters (wrote about these people in several posts back) who wanted you just for sex but on the other hand you thought that it could work out. So, learn from that, avoid and stop mixing around with people like this could be your first step of getting off the dwelling on failure as highly self-esteemed people always move forward and shape the current future better than what happened in the past.

5. They Avoid Devaluing Their Self-Esteem

People with high self-esteem value their own perception of themselves – they understand that they come first and don’t feel guilty about taking care of themselves. They believe charity starts within, and if they don’t believe that, they’ll never have a healthy self-image.

6. They Don’t Try to Please Anyone

They can’t please all the people all the time, so confident people focus on pleasing themselves – just not within school zones. Doing what makes you happy, regardless of how everyone else feels, is a sign of high self-esteem. Are you trying to impress your peers or try to live to people's expectations so that you can get into their good books? If so, why didn't god made you a robot instead of a human being? Grow a set of balls (for the ladies, it won't be balls but guts) and do what you know is right and good for yourself. Seeing your peers driving a BMW or a Ferrari doesn't mean that they are better than you. For all you know they could be juggling many loans and trying to stay above water with that kind of lifestyle when you are free to do anything because you don't have a BMW to worry about.

7. They Don’t Close Themselves Off

Confident people are always open about themselves. It’s those with low self-esteem that hide all the best parts of themselves behind an emotional wall. Instead of keeping the real you a secret, be open and honest in all your dealings.

8. They’re Not Followers

People with low self-esteem don’t believe they can lead, so they end up following others. Rather than seeking a sense of belonging, people with high self-esteem walk their own paths and leave it to others to follow them.

9. They Don’t Fish for Compliments

If you’re constantly seeking compliments, you’re not confident. People with high self-esteem always do their best (and go out of their way to do good deeds) because it’s what they want to do, not because they’re seeking recognition. If you need to hear compliments, say them to yourself in the mirror.

10. They’re Not Lazy

People work harder when they have high self-esteem because they’re not bogged down by doubts and complaints. Those with low self-esteem end up procrastinating and wasting their energy thinking about all the work they have to do rather than rolling up their sleeves and just getting it done.

11. They Don’t Shy Away from Risks

When you trust yourself, you’ll be willing to participate more in life. People with low self-esteem are always on the sidelines waiting for the perfect moment to jump in. Instead of letting life pass you by, have confidence in your success and take the risks necessary to succeed. Having said that, high self esteemed people always take calculated risk and not blind risk. We live in a world where when we wake up, everything has a risk but in order to make things work, we have to minimize and take calculated risks. Nobody can totally run/avoid risks.

12. They Don’t Gossip

People with low self-esteem are always in other peoples’ business – they’re more interested in what everyone else is doing than themselves. People with high self-esteem are more interested in their own business and stay out of others’ affairs.


Self-esteem is essential to success in life. People who have a high level of self-esteem believe in themselves and push themselves to succeed in every aspect of their lives, be it in business, investment, relationships, family and etc while those with low confidence feel a sense of entitlement. If you need a boost in your self-image, avoid making the mistakes of people with low self-esteem. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

Controlled And Haunted By Past Experiences? Try This...

When the nights are long and you can't sleep for all the sadness of a past left unresolved; when you cannot grasp the future squarely, move on and do the right thing for the future; when the past haunts both your waking hours and your dreams... it's likely that you're in the grip of anxiety and inertia. There will always come a point at which you must cease to stay stuck in the past or it will define you and mark every step you take from now on.

This problem can be for any aspect in life. Be it from bad experiences in businesses or investing in the financial markets or even in past relationships. It could be anything. It's undeniable that many pasts can be extremely ugly and scary but allowing it to haunt or control you and your thoughts currently and in future, makes it totally unfair not only for the people you probably are or may be with in current or future state but also to your own goodself. Having said that, it doesn't mean that you totally shove it aside as if nothing happened because in any past, it is a lesson and we as a normal sane human being, learn from mistakes/lessons. If you continue to ignore these life lessons/mistakes, you will never progress currently or in future. As Robert Kiyosaki said, "Your choices decide your fate. Take the time to make the right ones. If you make a mistake, that's fine; learn from it & don't make it again".

Some may say that it's tough to forget the past (normally referred to bad pasts), but hell, our brain isn't a computer that you can just delete everything. Hence, it stays there. But the good news is, there is a way to overcome it and it has worked for me through out my life and maybe it can help those who are stuck in the past and always doubting the present and future:

1) Accept that you cannot change what happened.

But, still remember you CAN change your past. You can't change it physically, but you can change it mentally. It is not possible to rewrite the facts of what you experienced and went through. But it is possible to rewrite the way you perceive it and handle it from now onward. If you don't, your hurt self will carry over this emotional pain into all new experiences and relationships, possibly poisoning them and dooming them to failure without any conscious desire on your behalf. For example; Imagine, just because of numerous bad pasts you become utterly defensive, negative and in a way cold, and at present or in future you meet someone that is truly in love and is giving you his/her 100% or more, but because you let the past haunt you, you treat him/her with that defensive, negative and cold way is utterly unfair to him/her as that current or future person you're with or going to be with is the one true one for you but you destroyed it because you're unable to accept the past and learn from it.

2) Don't believe anything someone said to hurt you

Abusers, from the mildest situational bully like an obnoxious supervisor to a bone-breaking abusive parent or even an ex-boyfreind/girlfriend, do not want you to think well of yourself or question their unjust authority. Basically it's simple. They can't achieve something by themselves or not able to get you to be their relationship partner, the next best thing is to get all other people around him/her to gang up and go against you or even say hurting comments about you just to bring you down to his/her level. Now, if you ALLOW it to sink into you, then you've lost and that person won. Their main objective is to make you feel irritated or frustrated  by all means in hope to bring you down to his/her level. If they say you're too independent, that's because they wanted you to be dependent of their opinion over your own. For example; If they say you're too sensitive, it means you still have the capacity to feel if it's true or enough self respect to reject an insult. If they say you're too cold, it's because you're not gullible enough to fall for their excuses. Compare their insults to the people who loves and care about you on what they say about you. When both groups agree, it's probably true about you but that doesn't always make it bad. You may find that practically all of their insults from the abusers/bullies group are just flat lies. It's common for bullies and abusers to lie to keep people emotionally dependent on their good opinion.

3) Let Go

Acknowledge that you're living in real time carrying the baggage of old time. And then let go of it. Are you playing out a past habit in a current relationship? Does your fear of anger, loss, raised voices, silence etc. now set the tone for how you relate to others? This requires careful consideration to untwist the tendrils of who you really are and what experiences from childhood onward shaped how you react to situations. Most of us feel a deep inner core of who we are at our best. And we are all capable of separating the emotional triggers from the solid core of self if we sit still long enough to tease apart that what triggers our habitual behavior and seek that which is truly what we believe ourselves capable of being.

4) Remove the past from your future

This simply means that you must learn to stop letting past experiences control you. This happens when you have a bad experience and you let it continue. In this case, instead of thinking positively and remembering the means by which you ultimately overcame prior negative challenges, your immediate habitual reaction is to transfer the bad outcomes from that former experience to a current situation, assuming the worse case scenario for your current experience, with full-blown expectations that things will only be bad. And with that comes the habitual reactions, on cue, rather than a series of chosen proactive actions defined by you as the person you are now. Which means here is that if you had bad experiences, and instead of switching your mindset to think positively and progress positively at your current of future times, you will definitely bring over the "bad experiences" thoughts and actions and label or detriment the current or future experiences in full-force. Hence, removing "bad experiences" is a must not only for others, but for your own good self.

5) Create A Positive Future

Combine the knowledge that you cannot change the past with the knowledge that you cannot predict the future but you can make sure that the person you are right now is strong, whole and healthy emotionally, so that any future negative scenarios are something the person you are now can definitely cope with, no matter what gets thrown at you. This is really about taking responsibility for yourself and how you react. Once you have faced the challenges from your past and accept that while you cannot change the past, you can cease to let it be role-played out every time a new challenge arises, you are beginning to remove the fear of more bad things happening as directed by your past experiences. Instead, you now learn to embrace the reality that the future is as yet unwritten and if you want it to be a positive and strong experience, the power lies within you to achieve this.

6) Avoid Making Rash Decisions

While you're going through the healing process to strengthen your ability to deal with the past in a reasoned and distanced manner, keep aware of the triggers that will send you back to past habits. Actively aim to put a hold on habitual reactions and challenge yourself to do things differently, while at the same time accepting why you need to do this. This also means avoiding making decisions in haste that you may regret later. You do care about tomorrow, hence, do not screw it up by making and doing wrong actions based on rash decisions. For example; just because of extremely bad experiences in the past, and you allow it to "haunt" you, you convoluted everything and make a rash decision of the current and future experiences to be the same as the past experiences. That, is seriously a dangerous rash decision one can ever make.

Tipping Point

Think back to those times in your life that proved to be pivotal moments in your growth as a person. Maybe it had to do with your finances, or your spirituality, or something you were trying to accomplish or overcome.

How did you learn how to get to where you wanted to be? Where did you learn what you needed to know? Who did you learn from, or was it all trial and error?

Lots of people start down their path toward whatever success means to them, not having any clue as to how tough that road can be. If they did have a clue in the beginning, a good number would say, “No thanks, I’ll stay ‘comfortable’ over here.” It’s almost like telling the universe you don’t want any good luck—those unexpected things that you hear about happening to other people that changes their lives in ways they couldn’t have imagined. Chance favors the prepared and courageous mind—those who are unafraid to take risks.

The outcomes of those risks partly reflect the knowledge that went into those decisions and actions, and that too reflects where that knowledge came from. When it comes down to it, few who have reached extraordinary levels of success in a given area did so because they learned everything they needed to learn on their own. Even the Buddha followed several mentors before moving beyond them to reach Nirvana.

I believe that life is always giving us turning points big and small—opportunities to change how we see things, change how we go about reaching our goals—especially when the way we’ve been going about it isn’t getting us any closer to the objective. It can be something as simple as the friend who casually mentions the name of an author who they think would be of value to you at that time in your life—or it could be the direct advice of a trusted someone when you have an important decision to make.

So take note when a good friend drops an observation about a question or issue you’re considering. There’s that little voice sometimes in the back of our head that might discredit what others see about ourselves or our situations that we’re not seeing.

You might think you don’t need to hear it, but we all know about our own thoughts sometimes, right? They’re not always supportive. Just because you think, “I have this under control—I don’t need to hear anybody else’s perspective” does not make it true. It’s quite often the opposite.

So it’s up to you to choose a perspective of where you are today, not where you were yesterday. You don’t know where you are today until you show up. Come from the present moment, be in the present moment, and then choose to see how you can utilize the guidance that I believe life is giving us all the time. Ask the universe for guidance, and you will receive it. You never know which “today” could provide your life’s next turning point.

15 Powerful Relationship Lessons From Happy And Loving Couples

One of my mottoes is “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life!” I’m a big believer that our thoughts and emotions shape our experiences. The problem is that most people aren’t even aware of their negative thoughts. It’s almost like they have just become a habit, so it seems normal to them. Here are 12 common toxic thoughts that you need to drop in order to have a better life:

1. Thinking that you are a victim.

You’re not a victim. So stop blaming other people or your circumstances for your problems. Just because you don’t like where you are now doesn’t mean that you can’t take personal responsibility to change it for the better. So get rid of that victim-mentality because it doesn’t help anything. In fact, it acts as an obstacle to success. Realize that you, and only you, are responsible for your destiny.

2. Thinking that you can change other people.

You can’t. I had to learn this the hard way. There was a time in my life when I thought I could “motivate” and “inspire” people to be their best selves. It took me a while to realize that the only thing that can change other people is themselves. If they don’t want to change—or don’t know how—then all of your efforts will be wasted. So don’t worry about other people. If you don’t like them “as is,” then you have the choice to not hang out with them anymore. But you don’t have the right to change them.

3. Thoughts that constantly resist “What Is.”

Some things you can change. In fact, a LOT of things you can change. You can lose weight. You can find a better job. You can go back to school. You can work on your marriage. But there are some things you can’t change. Those things are simply “what is.” You can’t change that your boss is a jerk. You can change jobs, but you can’t change your boss. You can’t change the fact that you have to pay rent or your mortgage. But you can stop resisting it. Resisting the unchangeable does nothing more than frustrate you and make you miserable. So change what you can, and accept what you can’t.

4. Thinking that “The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side.”

“If only I was as pretty as that girl, then I’d be happy.”  Or “If only I was as rich as that guy, then I’d be happy.” Those kinds of thoughts aren’t true. Just because you think someone else has it better than you doesn’t mean they do. Maybe the pretty girl came from an abusive home and can’t get her life in order. And maybe the rich guy spends so much time at work that he never gets to see his family. The grass is not greener on the other side. So appreciate the grass you have. It’s your grass. So love it.

5. Having expectations of other people.

Expectations can be deadly to happiness, even if you think your expectation is reasonable, such as having your roommate or spouse do his/her share of the chores around the house. Just because you expect it doesn’t mean they will do it. Realize that your expectations come from your personal experiences and biases. They are not necessarily other people’s priority. You probably don’t like being expected to do things that you don’t want to do, so don’t impose your expectations on others. If you don’t like their behavior, either accept it, or move on.

6. Thinking that having a significant other will complete you.

If you are not a whole person already, then having a romantic partner will not make you whole. Plus, it puts a lot of pressure on the other person to “make you happy.” You need to be happy with yourself with or without someone. Having a significant other doesn’t make you happier. Only you can make yourself happy.

7. Feeling that you always need to prove that you are right.

I always wonder why people will fight to the death to prove they are “right.” What’s the point? I think it’s because they don’t want to look weak. Or vulnerable. Or stupid. But I think admitting you are wrong is a much more noble and mature thing to do. Besides, everyone has a different opinion. So why not have yours and let them have theirs?

8. Worrying about what other people think.

Why do you care? Do you think they are judging you? I’m going to let you in on a little secret. No one is judging you as much as you are judging yourself. Other people are too busy judging themselves just like you that they probably don’t even give you a second thought! So do what makes you happy. And if others are judging you, then it’s their problem, not yours. Ignore them and be happy anyway.

9. Thinking there is only ONE right and ONE wrong.

We live in a world where we like to think there is an objective reality. But guess what? Objective reality is an illusion. It doesn’t exist. Only subjective realities do. What one person thinks is the “truth” is not the truth for someone else. For example—who’s right? The Republicans or the Democrats? Well, it depends on who you ask, right? Everyone thinks something is right because it fits their life and the way they look at the world. And that’s it. Period. End of story.

10. Worrying about the future because you feel unprepared.

I love this saying: “Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.” And if you believe in the power of prayer, then you know that sending out thoughts and emotions into the Universe/God (whatever your belief system) works much of the time. So instead, be here in the NOW. Now is all you have. So be present and stop worrying about the future because you can only control it to a certain extent.

11. Thinking that money equals happiness.

We live in a capitalistic culture that values money and achievement. We think that people who have a lot of money are somehow better than those who don’t. But that’s simply not true. I’m sure there are plenty of happy monks in the world who probably don’t hold a dollar to their names. Or someone working at McDonald’s may be really happy while some billionaires aren’t. So don’t fall into the trap of thinking you have to be rich to be happy. It simply isn’t true. Money is nice, but it doesn’t make you happy. Only you can do that.

12. Believing that the past determines your future.

Just because you came from a poor family, or made mistakes in the past does not mean that you can’t make your future better. If you have labeled yourself as a “failure” because of your past, then you will only continue your “failure” attitude into the future. And if you’ve heard of the self-fulfilling prophecy phenomenon, then you know that what you think, you become. So like I said in the opening paragraph: “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life!”

I hope that this article has made you think long and hard about the toxic thoughts that probably go through your mind every day. And I bet you didn’t even know it! So start paying attention to what you think, and when you catch your negative thoughts, hit the “cancel” and “delete” buttons—FAST!